Ugh. I've read everything I can about helping cats through litter box issues and I try to follow them, but it's not working out well. I'm a horrible cat owner, which wasn't obvious until I had an actual cat-acting cat, unlike my first two. And I know I was a major factor in starting the issue in the first place by not keeping the litter box clean enough, but I can barely keep up on toilets staying flushed in the house, let alone cleaned. But the cat peed in an open dresser drawer yesterday!
I'm going to take her back to the vet to see if it's another UTI, but the last 2 or 3 times we took her in, her urinalysis was fine. I'm also going to see if we can put her on some kind of anti-anxiety because she just can not deal with Pixel. I try to manage them, but it's not working (only 1 of the 5 people in this house can keep gates and doors closed). And I haven't been able to figure out a way to desensitize Pixel to Chai because as soon as she realizes he's there, she freaks out and it doesn't seem fair to stress her that way, even if in the long run it will help her.
I've watched her pee next to the litter box, even after it's been cleaned. She'll poop in it even if it's not as clean as she'd like, but she won't pee in it. I have pee pads next to the box (which is on thick plastic), but that didn't help when she peed in the drawer yesterday. We have litter boxes on every level of the house, although she primarily lives on the lower level since we started feeding her down there to completely avoid Pixel interrupting her meals. We have one more litter box than we have cats. We have an automatic litter box and she's never minded it, so I don't think she's scared of it and won't use it. I should plug in the Feliway diffuser again, although it didn't make a ton of difference before.
She sleeps with the girls and they love it and she's a good mouser. When she's not stressed by dogs and little boys, she's quite affectionate. This is just the wrong house for her, but with litter box issues the chances of someone else wanting her is slim to none. I don't want to rehome her, but peeing on clothing in drawers is more than I can take, even knowing these issues started with me.
Mostly venting, but if anyone has any miracles I can try, I'm open to ideas. I'm hoping that Prozac or something of the like will be a miracle drug for her.