Those of you who have been around forever will remember the bitter custody battle when my marriage ended in 2006 - we had two dogs (Charley and Emma), and the courts dictated that we each get one. As Charley was bonded only to me and my ex had NO interest in her, he ended up with my heartdog Emma, who I had stayed home with for the first nine months but who was bonded to both of us. I fought for visitation rights and in 2007 got an award of 30 minutes per month, on his property, when he is there.
Emma is now 8 1/2 years old, and her face is beginning to show her age.
But her body is still full of puppy-joy and she is still the same happy happy happy happy happy girl she always was.
But the very best thing about my visit with her last week was that my ex popped the question: "If I die before Emma, will you take her and look after her for me?"
YES!! Not that he's likely to die first - he's still in his fifties (yes, I married a younger man) - but who knows? I am thrilled that he is thinking of her welfare, and finally after seven plus years trusts me enough to want me to have her if he isn't around. I'd fought for that in the divorce agreement but back then he wouldn't agree to it, and according to property rights (dogs are property in the eyes of the law), he could do whatever he wanted with her. My biggest fear was that he would die and I would lose all contact with her.
Emma is so lucky to have two people who really do love her and will stick by her forever. And she clearly loves both of us too. My heart is full of joy for my sweet heartdog.