I haven't - yet. I was trying not to make things worse, but I suppose the worst that could happen is they say no and that I end up finding a different vet to take Ronan going forward.
I've never brought in a second dog where the first didn't accept the new one. Wow. On an emotional level, this is incredibly painful. I feel like a jerk for thinking Ronan was ready. It sounded like such a great chance to try things out, too. I know... if it sounds too good to be true... *sigh*
It isn't fair. I feel horrible for both dogs to the point that it aches. I feel guilty for going down this path. Ronan is doing better than Z in that he seems perfectly content as long as she isn't too close to him. Z on the other hand - oh, my heart bleeds. She wants so badly to know she's accepted and loved. She tries to please everyone - human or dog - that she comes in contact with. Hubby and I love her to pieces and I know that she's already bonding with us. I feel for Z the most. How is she going to feel when we give her up, too? Where's her stability? Her forever home?
And now I must go love on her. I keep telling her that she's far better than we deserve. How I wished this could have worked out. But forcing her on Ronan isn't fair either. And what to do? Find another trainer/behaviorist for help? To what end, really? She has such potential that I think she'd be better off with someone who could help her reach that - and build her confidence. And of course, another dog who would accept her and be her best buddy.
I know we'll miss her greatly.
Ronan says, "Not so much."